So maybe I'm not cut out to be a military wife?? I'm not considering bailing out on my marriage or anything (I like Matt WAAAAY to much to do that) but this whole "your husband will gone to Norway for two weeks, then home for 8 days, then he'll be gone for another two weeks (this time to Greece), we'll send him back to you for a week and a half during which time he will be taking another class towards his masters degree and be gone to school constantly, then we're sending to Greece again for 4 days, and you'll be stuck at home having a Mommy melt down alone with your two kids and constantly being reminded why it would be a bad idea to have another baby anytime soon".....well it really sucks. Do I sound like I'm complaining? That's because I am. I know I should consider myself lucky that he's not deployed for a year or anything crazy like that (and trust me...I am grateful) but that doesn't make the time apart any easier knowing that someone else has it worse off than me.
Ok, switching gears from whining to extreme excitement...I'M GOING TO GREECE!!! When Matt showed me the calendar for this month and next and pretty much made it clear that I was going to be sans husband for the next 2 months, a marvelous idea came into my mind. " Why should Matt get to go to Greece and not me?? Well, he shouldn't. I'm going to Greece too!" And that was it. I spent the next few days arranging care for the kids and finding a good airfare price and VIOLA! I'm going to with him to Greece. It will be fabulous. The military pays for Matt to stay in a (VERY nice) hotel, so we don't have to pay for that. We pretty much just have to cover the cost of my airfare and our food and whatever exciting things we do while we're there. Talk about a cheap trip to Greece. I'm ridiculously excited and can't wait for a week of peace and relaxation. It will be the longest I've ever been away from the kids and I feel a little anxious about it...but not anxious enough to keep me from passing up this opportunity!
So I guess my little life lesson of this week has been this: Everything has it's positives and negatives. We love being part of the Air Force and all the opportunities it has already brought our way. We are well provided for, have lived in two very cool places, have gotten to travel Europe, have amazing health care, and a tight knit community with lots of fast friends and people in our same boat. The negative?? Sometimes I'm going to have to be a single Mom. Is it worth the trade? I'll let you know in 18 more years.
6 comments:
well i for one, am super impressed with any military spouse. i couldn't do it. i like having bryce home once a day, even if it's not until 9 pm. :) bryce goes to vegas for 2 weeks every year and it just about KILLS me every time (oh, and i'm NOT invited, period). :) so jealous you get to go to greece!
So fun you get to go to Greece!!!! I love that you take up these awesome opportunities. I am sure lots don't. I do feel for you having Matt gone all the time though. I don'tknow if I could do it very well. I get way to stressed out being home alone at night and don't like taking care of the kids by myself. Way to find some positives in the midst of somenot fun things.
after matt goes away a few more times you will get used to it. it will never be easy (I was always sad to see Robert walk out the door) but you just start to tell yourself there is nothing I can do about this. it's time to do what I have to do, and remember he will be home soon enough. :)
How exciting that you get to go to Greece. Have fun.
Fun! And good for you for planning to go with Matt! I am in the part-time-AF-wife category, but I still understand your frustrations. With Justin it is he is gone all day for school, comes home exhausted, and then has to leave for the weekend or even during the week a couple times a month. it's not the same as your situation, but it still is wearing on my sanity! Good luck and enjoy your time in Greece!
Yay Greece! Ia am already seeing glorious pictures on your blog and getting jealous...so we found out it is a very likely possibility Brian will be deployed for 6 months next year. Now I'm thinking of course this was going to happen and its no big deal and we'll make money but I know I will a mess when he goes and watch every sappy movie I have 12 times before he comes home. But we still love the AF!
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